I am as surprised as you are!

For the record, I cannot. When I order pizza, I expect a good hour of well-lit sex photographed from multiple angles to occur.

“Why yes, I would like extra sausage.”

(Women giving blowjobs in a kneeling position is Extreme Porn? I had no idea several of the relationships I’ve been in were Extreme Porn. I doubt the women knew either.)

Why would you want to stop your husband from looking at porn, if he wants to? What’s so crucial about stopping it? And why is it your job to do so?

If my partner decides she wants to look at a passel of porn, my attitude is, “Have at it!”

If you think “women down on their knees sucking” is “extreme,” then, well, I don’t really know what to tell you. Many women enjoy that — I know one myself! Or spanking, or bondage, for that matter. I don’t really get into those latter three, but I think if both people are consenting adults, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with any of those things.

Also, I don’t watch porn that is misogynistic. And a lot of it is. But I don’t classify consensual BDSM, spanking, etc., as misogynistic by nature. If any of the hundreds of thousands of women who greatly enjoy being tied up and spanked (many of whom are feminists, as are their partners) were told that they were participating in misogynistic acts, both parties would tell you what’s what.

I think most men easily distinguish reality from porn. Also, as a corollary, in the internet age I think a heck of a lot more women view and consume porn than will admit to it. There will always be sociopaths. They are an unavoidable component of any population, and will exist whether there is porn or not and their behavior would be much the same in any instance.

Porn gets blamed for a lot of things that would occur just as much in its absence, because it’s an easy scapegoat.